How to Build Confidence And Peace Of Mind

There are few of
us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt as we go about our
life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create within us a
wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face all
situations in our lives. Here is a taste of just a few of these
tools...

1. Build your sense of trust in yourself.

Your first task is to build the trust that whatever happens in your life, you
can handle it all. Right now, think of something about any area of
your life that is bothering you and repeat to yourself ten times the
important words, "Whatever happens, Ill handle it." I suspect
you will immediately begin to feel a sense of peace within your
being. These are important words to have when the "what ifs"
come up. "What if I lose my job? I’ll handle it." "What if I get
sick? Ill handles it." "What if something happens to my marriage?
I’ll handle it." And what does "Ill handle it" mean? It
means, "I’ll learn from it. I’ll grow from it. Ill make
it a triumph!"

2. Do your very best, then let go of the outcome.

To help you let go, develop the trust that "It’s all happening
perfectly." This calming affirmation is a shortened version of:
"I’ve done my best, but even if things don’t go the way I
want them to go, I will simply find a way to be enriched by whatever life brings me.
I will learn and grow from it all. Therefore, it
truly is all happening perfectly." Repetition over and over again of
this wonderful affirmation will definitely quiet the negative chatter
of the mind and help you let go of the outcome. Peace at last!

3. Stop complaining.

Complaining is a big clue that you are not taking
responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing
life’s obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening
the door to growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever
life hands you, you have the upper hand. You now have a choice: You
can create your own misery...or you can create your own sense of
growth and wellbeing. That’s power! Every time you have the
opportunity to stretch your capacity to handle the world around you,
the more powerful and confident you will feel.

4. Yes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Often we think, "Ill do it when I am
not so afraid." But in reality, it works the other way round. The
"doing it" comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid
of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Action is the
key. Once you have done something you have feared a number of times,
guess what happens...the fear of that particular situation goes away.
And it’s then time to further expand the comfort zone and move on
to the next situation you fear. That’s what growth is all about.
And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier to
"feel the fear and do it anyway!"

5. When making decisions, adopt the "no-lose" philosophy.

The "no-lose" philosophy tells us that "I
can’t lose - regardless of the outcome of the decision I make. I
look forward to the opportunities for learning and for growing that
either choice gives me." Remember, if you learn through your
"mistakes," there are no mistakes! In this way, the "no-lose"
approach to decision-making guarantees that all your decisions will
be the right decisions.

6. Know that you count.

Know that your presence makes a difference. If you don’t understand this very
important fact, act as if you do make a difference! Just keep asking
yourself the "act-as-if" question in all areas of your life: "What
would I be doing if I were really important here?" Make a list and
then take action. Soon you will "live into" the realization that you
really are important.

7. Commit 100% to all areas of your life.

That means when you are at work or with your family and friends,
Or meeting new people, or volunteering in the community... or
whatever...give it all you’ve got, holding nothing back. When
you commit to giving 100%, your sense of focus, excitement,
participation, enjoyment, fulfilment, and happiness come alive.
What a glorious feeling that is!

8. Say "thank you" a lot.

Saying "thank you" is a wonderful way to make important connections in all
areas of your life. The words "thank you" can also help you
appreciate and focus on all the good that is around you, thus
helping you release any feelings of anger and resentment you may be
holding. You can see why the words "thank you" are two of the most
powerful words ever spoken. If you, step by step, begin
incorporating into your life these tips, your sense of confidence
and peace of mind will grow and grow. Remember: there is plenty of
time...but now is definitely the time to begin!